A valuable practice when relating to others is to ask this father's essential question:
“But what if no one is broken? Then what are you seeing?”
This is a beautiful account of a father who learned to connect with his autistic son through joining his world. Rather than trying to pull his son out of his eccentric behavior, the father learned to enter into his son's experience and ultimately help his son relate to the outside world. To join his son authentically, the father learned to shift the way he viewed others and remove judgment. In becoming able to see past "failure" into what lies beneath the surface, the father often discovered pain and insecurity, and essentially the powerful lesson that no one is broken.